all you need is love.

currently listening to: The Greatest Story Ever Told/Oliver James.

it's sad when you realize that getting older makes things different... especially the way you live your life and make decisions.

i was having a conversation with jj earlier, and we were talking for quite a while, and we were talking about relationships and love... (and all that jazz!), and it left me with questions that really got me thinking and itching to blog.

at what age did we stop listening to our hearts and start listening to our heads?

i guess that i just find it sad to see how "mature" we've gotten. when we were... err... young and impulsive, if you liked someone and that person liked you back--kaboom! another couple to live happily ever after--usually until another person comes along, hehe. the idea of love was just so simple. being young, we were told to just follow our hearts, and to remember that love conquers all. as john lennon would say, "all you need is love."

nowadays, it isn't quite as simple as that. how i wish.

falling in love just isn't the fairytale we've imagined. it's no longer as magical. when one starts to fall for someone else, worries and insecurities start pouring in, such as will i get hurt again?, is he really THE one?, is he just on the rebound?, am i even going to marry him? unfortunately, the questions are endless and the answers remain unknown.

when two people like each other, there are factors (tens and hundreds and thousands of them) to consider. you just can't follow your heart when it comes to relationships--because there's too much involved. there's too much at stake. giving up everything for love, no matter how romantic it may seem, just isn't as easy as it sounds anymore.

at this point, most of us have been hurt by someone we've cared deeply about. we know what it's like to cry over an argument. we know what it's like to lose someone. we know what it's like to be rejected...

... and what happens after we lose someone?

we are told to "learn from our experiences".

unfortunately, it's these very experiences that, as jj would say, "jade" our perspective on love. it's these very experiences that make us so skeptical whether or not the feelings we have are real. it's these very experiences that make us so doubtful when we hear things we've heard before from someone else. it's these very experiences that make us more careful...

... so that our fall isn't too bad. so that we don't get too hurt.

so we live in the moment and listen to our hearts...

... but we think before we act.

aaah, the irony.

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albert: yes, it IS a nice poem, isn't it? unfortunately, life isn't that simple. oh well. =)
kate: thank you for that really nice comment. you're a very great person--and you better know that!!!
kimmy: i liked that. all who wander are not lost. all who wander are not lost. =).
yogi: i should know better than to quote Lennon, i'm sorry. hehe.
r: thanks =). heroin eh? hehe.
vera: happier--depending on the day. haha. i've missed you sweetie!
roanne: yeah, it really does. too bad i didn't write it =).
kessa: thanks kessa! take care, too =).